Having coached many introverts over the years, I have found that there is a misconception in the way society portrays, understands and favour extroverts.
We usually have this conception that “the confident person” is the life of the party. They are the most extrovert, popular person in the room, making friends and striking up conversations wherever they go. They are usually engaging, witty and ooze charisma. They are also often believed to be comfortable and quick thinking in team meetings at work, fearless in speaking their opinions, and to take on new projects.
Whilst, “the Introvert '' is usually considered to be the reserved, quiet person in the back corner of the room. They are often thought of as insecure, afraid to talk to others and spending most of their time alone.
Through my years of coaching, however, I have discovered quite the opposite.
Dispelling limiting beliefs about introverts
I often find introverts have the natural skills to develop a true confidence that does not need to be the loudest person in the room. They often hold a quiet sense of confidence and deep assurance and faith that is resilient and doesn’t fluctuate in response to trends or external changes.
Genuinely confident people are not blindly confident or arrogant – they are aware of their strengths and they’re equally aware of their flaws.
They are not afraid to recognise when they need help and have the integrity to be consistently true to their values, demonstrating authenticity in all of the different settings they find themselves in.
The common superpowers introverts display
Deep thinking: Introverts have a natural tendency to think deeply, analiyse situations and reflect on their thoughts and emotions.
Strong listening skills: Introverts are often excellent listeners and can provide empathetic support to others. This can help build strong relationships and create a positive impact on those around them.
Intense focus: Introverts have the ability to focus intently on tasks and projects, leading to high quality work and increased productivity.
Enjoyment of alone time: Introverts often find peace and comfort in solitude, allowing them to recharge and maintain their energy levels.
Authenticity: By being in touch with their inner selves, introverts are able to live authentically and true to who they are, rather than trying to conform to societal expectations.
Ability to form deep connections: Introverts tend to form strong, meaningful relationships with those they are close to, leading to a sense of fulfilment and belonging.
Tips from a confidence coach:
Embrace your introversion: Don’t view your introversion as a hindrance, but rather as a unique aspect of your personality. Accept and celebrate your quiet nature, and recognise that it’s not a problem that needs to be fixed.
Find your passion: When you’re passionate about something, it’s easier to be confident in that area. Discover what you’re passionate about and focus on it. Pursuing your passion can help you build confidence.
Focus on your strengths: Everyone has unique strengths and talents, and introverts are no exception. Identify and focus on your strengths, and don’t compare yourself to others. By recognising your strengths, you’ll be better equipped to tackle challenges with confidence.
Surround yourself with positive people: The people you surround yourself with can greatly impact your confidence. Seek out supportive, positive people who lift you up and encourage you to be your best self.
You should check out the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain who discusses the strengths of introverts.
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